2020 feels like it’s going to be a game-changing year, not just for me, but for a lot of us. I’ve heard people talk about the shifts that are already happening in their life and business as we transition into a new decade.
All I can say is…I’m ready!
I don’t know about you but this year (and most of the decade) has been a challenging one for me—both personally and professionally.
There’s been a lot of highs…things to celebrate like saying “I do”, birthing my business and two amazing children, travelling abroad, moving to a new country and back, making many new friends both online and off, learning new skills like copywriting, branding and design, WordPress, life coaching and so much more.
While all of that has been something to celebrate, I’ve also experienced some devastating lows.
Over the past decade, I’ve lost seven friends and relatives to either cancer or heart failure and at the start of the decade, I lost my best friend to suicide (her death was the motivation behind my business which I’ll open up about in another post).
It’s also been an incredibly trying time for interpersonal relationships both within my marriage and immediate family—a lot of which has burdened me throughout most of this decade.
Although it’s been hard, I know that this year (and decade) has been the catalyst for massive awareness and growth—in my heart I know it’s been preparing me for something greater.
- Things I used to tolerate I no longer accept as easily (I’m still a work in progress but the 2010s have been the decade that I’ve found my voice). I’m getting much better at setting boundaries with others (and myself) and speaking up when something or someone tries to cross one of them. If you compare me to who I was at the start of the decade, I barely recognize that girl
- Beliefs I used to have—beliefs about myself and what I believed I deserved or was worthy of are beginning to shift claim more of my worth and own more of my power. I’ve been clearing a lot of unconscious beliefs that I’ve had and have become a lot more aware of them
- Dreams and ideas I tried to manifest at the start of the decade are starting to come to fruition and my hard work feels like it’s finally paying off.
I won’t lie, with this change comes a lot of discomfort. If you’re feeling it, too, then I invite you to sit with it and accept where you’re at.
As many friends and family have left our physical plane and their physical bodies, I feel like a part of me has died, too.
- The parts that have held me back and have kept me small.
- Living in the shadows.
- Sitting in my comfort.
- Afraid to leap into the unknown.
I’m ready to let go and surrender so here’s my list of 3 things I’m leaving behind in the 2010s and what I will embrace instead
1/ Structures and systems that don’t serve my highest good
Over the past 4 years of creating this business, I’ve given my power away to a lot of self-proclaimed gurus who have skillfully sold me on the 7-figure business success formula that has never felt right or good on a soul level.
It means I’m leaving behind mainstream marketing tactics and the old patriarchal way of doing things that don’t feel aligned with who I am or my values as a spiritually-minded entrepreneur).
I’ve learned the hard way, time and time again, that when you compromise your values, it leads to nothing but anger, resentment and a lack of fulfilment in whatever you’re doing whether it’s your business, a job, relationship, friendship…ANYTHING.
In a personal context, I’ve Kon Mari’d by entire home and have been releasing anything that doesn’t spark joy! The Marie Kondo philosophy for living has not only influenced the vision I have for my home but my business and relationships.
What can you embrace instead?
Only the things, people and experiences that align with your highest good, what you value and brings you joy.
2/ Grudges and past resentments
I’ve spent tens of thousands of dollars over the past 4 years on coaching, courses, workshops, systems and software that I thought would help move my business forward…faster…and…with more ease. But many of those things didn’t work or didn’t compel me to stick with them long enough to make the transformation it promised to make.
As business owners, this is a common mistake and it’s often classified as “shiny object syndrome”. As creatives, we’re particularly vulnerable to the hype because if our energy isn’t properly channelled we can get easily distracted.
I’m also applying this to my personal life and consciously letting go of baggage, past hurts and old wounds that I don’t want to carry with me as I move forward.
It can cripple you and it’s a worthwhile one to let go of in the new year. It’s beneficial for your health, your mindset and your overall wellbeing.
What can you embrace instead?
Forgiveness and acceptance. Be kinder and gentler with yourself and others as it takes the pressure off of being perfect or having it all figured out.
3/ Living comfortably in what I know (my zone of competence)
What’s truly holding you back from breaking through to a higher level?
For the past 3 years, I’ve been working as a VA (virtual assistant) for creative entrepreneurs which started as a temporary gig to supplement my income and provide a flexible work schedule while I raised my littles.
I loved working behind-the-scenes on kindred soul’s businesses because it was comfortable—I didn’t have to put myself out there too much. It was good enough in the sense it was fairly easy to do—clients would assign me a task and I’d do it.
Although I was quite comfortable in that role and making a little money (with the potential to make a lot more), I wasn’t embracing my true genius.
I realized by offering this service in my business, I was hiding and living in the shadows of my true calling—coaching.
I made the decision to let go of the VA work and not accept any new VA clients going forward, and instead, pour my heart and energy into my true genius and help other spiritually-minded entrepreneurs get their gift out into the world and in the hands of people who need it most.
Stay tuned as I announce new offerings in the new year!
What can you embrace instead?
Start living uncomfortably in the unknown and embracing your true genius. In other words, it’s time to start embracing what you love doing, not just what you’re good at.
The ways we hold ourselves back can be real and crippling but if you can move beyond the barriers you place on yourself I believe that 2020 can be a breakthrough year for you.
As we move into a new decade, I invite you to make a list of what you want to leave behind and reflect on how you’ve evolved over the past 10 years.
Who were you at the start of the decade? Who are you now? What’s changed?
Remember, it’s progress, not perfection. If you feel yourself slipping into old patterns and behaviours that don’t align with your highest good, revisit your list and ask yourself…Why does this matter?
Make a conscious effort to be aware of it, and most importantly, commit to expressing your true genius.
Celebrate the challenges and any discomfort you feel and know that it means you’re growing.
Use this mantra to help you as you move forward:
“I am open to ever-expanding good in all areas of my life each day. I breathe into my fears—transforming them into excitement and inspiration.”